Authenticity over Strategy


To avoid being hurt, we manage the expression of our true feelings so we feel safe. Often we become so attached to what another person will think, say, or do that we become overly strategic rather than being truly authentic. 

Exposing our deepest feelings in the presence of another person may seem scary. Where strategy is useful is in choosing whom to share with. It needs to be someone who will not judge you, advise you, or attempt to interrupt your process. This person can be a dear friend, family member, mentor, coach, or counselor who will be able to receive the gift of your vulnerability with compassion.

You have to share with your heart, not with your head. Allow yourself to express the range of your emotions — go for full authenticity. Let yourself be messy. Forget about grammar, making sense, or looking pretty while you cry. Be free with your expression.